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Sooo...Im back!

Hey everyone! Whats been going on around here? Im making my way back in to the forums after a bit of encouragement from Shelley. Thanks!

So where have I been? Im going to tell you! So have a seat, relax, have a beer with me and I will tell you my story! Really its a good one! It starts out sad but it gets good! I promise!

 

It started at about 2 am one monday morning. I was pacing around the house. Where the fuck is my wife? I didnt know what to think. She wouldnt answer her phone. She wouldnt respond to my text messages. I need some coffee. Looks like its going to be a long night.

I made myself a pot of coffee and lit up another smoke. I cant believe I smoked that whole pack already! I continued pacing in my living room. Drinking my coffee. I was really nervous. What is going on?

At about 4 am the front door opens! Theres my wife! So I ask her where she has been. She responds to my question in 4 words. "I want a divorce."

My heart was racing! I need another smoke! What am I going to do? I dont even know how to handle this! I decided it was best to just sleep on it. I didnt say another word to her. I just went to bed. About an hour later I woke up. It was time for work! So when I got to work I called her and asked her if she really meant what she said. She said she meant it. She was done with me. She told me she never loved me but instead there were certain advantages she could gain by marrying me and she just couldnt do this anymore.

I was sure that my life was over. I spent many hours with friends that helped talk me through what was happening. (Thanks Shelley!) I spent many hours drunk! I wasnt sure how to start life all over.

I had to stay at her house until I figured out where to go. My nearest family member was 500 miles away. One day I got in my car and decided to go for a drive. I needed time for myself to clear my head. About for hours later I was in a different state and completely alone. Of course I was sad, depressed, angry, and looking for a place to buy a beer. But on top of that I realized what a great feeling this was to just leave everything behind for a while and just spend some time with myself. Its something I have never done in my life! The feeling of freedom was amazing! I stayed the night in a motel and in the morning I headed back home. I had a plan. I was going to go home and fit whatever personal belongings I could into my car and go back to Colorado to be with my family and friends. I needed them now more than ever. So I did just that.

It was sad. I left my baby girl there. I was with her every minute that I was not at work. I cant believe I just left her!

When I arrived in Colorado my dad had already set up a job interview for me. I was hired within a few days. I really hate the work. Theres no challenge to it. But I was happy that I had something. I spent the first week I was here in hiding. I didnt want to be around anyone. My brother and some friends had finally convinced me one night to go out with them. So I went and had a really good time. It looked like life was coming together for me. I missed my baby so much though.

I got a call from my wife telling me that if I wanted my little girl I could have her for 6 months. I just needed to come pick her up. I was so happy! I couldnt wait to see her again! I had to wait until my dad had time to drive with me to new mexico. We decided we would take his truck and pick up all my stuff while we were there. I had to wait another 2 weeks to see my beautiful baby again. I had never felt this alone in my life.

So now the story starts to get better.

I had time to kill. Nothing to do. I managed to track down this girl I knew from high school and we started talking alot. Guys you know the girl Im talking about. Your high school crush. Everytime she was near you you got nervous. The one you promised yourself if you ever saw her again you would finally get the nerve to ask her out. Thats the girl Im talking about! So I took a chance and asked her out. Fully expecting rejection. She agreed to go out with me. Smiling

So the night of our date arrives. Im really fucking nervous! I didnt know what I was going to say to her. It had been at least 10 years since I had seen her. She never even acknowledged me back in those days. She got in my car and the most amazing thing happened. Everything just went really good. I didnt feel nervous anymore. I was talking to her and joking just like I was talking to an old friend. It really went good! I had finally got her attention after all these years. We have spent alot of time together since then and I must say we are just to damn cute together! awww! Eye-wink

Anyway. Back to my story.

Finally the 2 weeks had passed and it was time to go pick up my baby. The drive seemed like it took forever! I just wanted to be there. Finally we arrived. I knocked on my ex wifes door. She was holding my baby. She lept out of her mothers arms and straight into mine. Tears rolled down my face as I hugged her tighter. I brought her home with me and here she is for at least the next 6 months.

So thats been it really. I found out I was getting divorced. I moved back to colorado. I have my baby with me. My job sucks but its work anyway and I finally got that girl I never had the courage to ask out. Life has been quite an amazing journey!

 

Soooo...Whats been up with all of you? Sticking out tongue

 

 


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Sooo... I'm happy! Not that

Sooo... I'm happy!

 

Not that you've been through all this but that you're back... missed you.  I almost started your 'i'm back' thread myself.


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I am divorced myself .

I am divorced myself . Fortunately or unfortunately it is part of life. I can't give you any advice for your particular situation, other than to say, for me at least, as much as it was a kick in the gut, I moved on.

It does NOT have to be a battle and you don't have to get bitter. If she has asked for a divorce, that means that a problem has existed for a while and sometimes the best thing for both parties to do is separate. At least that is the way it was for me.

It hurt at first and I did try to convince her to stay, but I came to the realization that there was nothing I could do about it and rather than turn it into a battle, we left amicably and remained friends. Funny part was when I moved into my new apartment from the one we shared, after we had separated, she helped me move.

To me that was certainly better than being enemies. But again, without knowing the details I cannot speak for you. But what ever you do, DON'T turn it into a battle, it is part of life and does not need to be a battle.

No matter what you can get on with life.

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I actually have to give AMP

I actually have to give AMP a huge pat on the back here.  Never have I seen someone so fair and generous yet level-headed in this sort of situation.  I was personally amazed and a bit inspired... His first and foremost concern was always that adorable little girl of his.  She's quite a fortunate kid to have such a devoted father.


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Hi Brian! Good to see you!

Hi Brian! Good to see you! The good news is no fights broke out between us in all of this. The divorce was final about a week ago. Everything went pretty good. As good as it can in that situation anyway. Eye-wink

 

shelleymtjoy wrote:

I actually have to give AMP a huge pat on the back here.  Never have I seen someone so fair and generous yet level-headed in this sort of situation.  I was personally amazed and a bit inspired... His first and foremost concern was always that adorable little girl of his.  She's quite a fortunate kid to have such a devoted father.

Thanks Shelley! I find myself saying that a lot lately. Eye-wink All I wanted was my baby. Was never to concerned with who got what.


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Welcome back, Abandon!  We

Welcome back, Abandon!  We missed you, bro.


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Thanks!

Thanks!


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Hey bud, good to see you

Hey bud, good to see you around.

We've all been there.  I know the girl you're talking about.  Although for me, she was a very strong Christian, and we all know that wouldn't work (and didn't, thankfully)!   In the end, I'm sorry to hear about what had happened, but I'm glad things worked out for you in the end.  That doesn't always happen to people.  The key is that you have your daughter, and you have family, and that is the important part.  As long as you have those two elements, and most important you have your instincts, you're going to be okay.

Now lets get back to saving the world from theism!

 

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Thanks Rook! Im back and

Thanks Rook! Im back and ready to argue! Im just not sure where to start yet.


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Where in Colorado are you?

Where in Colorado are you?


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Im in the denver area. Are

Im in the denver area. Are you in Colorado?