And, by the way, should we change or replace the songs eventually?

I don't know, I enjoy church music.  I majored in music at a state public university for 3 years.  Had to give it up as I don't have the drive to be a full time professional.  And I was studying classical music - which means Handel and Haydn and Bach and masses and glorias and so on......  I rather liked it.  The one I really liked was the Chichester Psalms by Leonard Bernstein.  The university choir sang it in Hebrew.  And Foure's Requiem Mass - truly a celestial piece of music.  I also like gospel clap your hands and belt it music.  The major reason I tried to believe in religion was because I enjoyed choir and the music.  I began singing in the children's choir when I was about 5 or 6.

My love of music did not overwhelm my reason.  I quit going to church not because the music was bad, but because try as hard as I could, religion makes no sense to me.

I don't know of any where you can go that is free of religion.  My two older sons are not religious.  The youngest goes to church for companionship.  He doesn't really understand what they are telling him as he is learning disabled.  He is a very pragmatic man, my youngest son, and I don't expect it to last for long.  I didn't try to isolate them, but did my best to inoculate them with logic and reason. 

In the pledge - which she will surely learn in school - it says "one nation, under god, indivisible, ....."  I remember my mom stumbling over this phrase since when she was a girl, "under god" wasn't in there.  "In god we trust" is on all the money.  Many schools still say "benedictions" before school sponsored events.  I taught my sons to stand quietly during these invocations.  But we didn't bow our heads and we didn't repeat - amen.

My grandson goes to public school - he is almost 15 - 16?  How time flies by.  And he has always attended public school.  He is the most outspoken atheist.  Tells the other kids they are being ripped off by religion.  I'm proud that he is outspoken, but I am also a little worried that someone may get really upset about it and hurt him.

So I think that not hiding it from your children is the better course.  Just talk about it.  Point out the logical fallacies.  Teach her science at home - the kitchen is great.  Mixtures (salads), suspensions (salad dressing), and solutions (dish washing detergent).  The 2nd LOT while you are cooking on the stove.  Pressure and flow while water is running in the sink or stochastic processes or chaos theory.  My grandson joyfully threw up his arms during one of our sessions when he was learning to cook - "Science is everywhere!"  Teach her that.

Yeah, guys. The truth will out. I nearly convinced my christian mum of plate tectonics over a bowl of tomato soup t'other rainswept night.

"Look ma," says I. "See the wee convection currents causing those continents of bubbles to move outward from the centre of the bowl..."

"Errrr," replied she.

"They're god's convection currents," I weazled. "Not mine. He must have meant convention in fluids to work this way."

"Yes, he must. Oh, I see."

It's my engineering degree.  Systems Engineering they expose you to a lot of different disciplines without a lot of depth in anything but black boxes.  So I had inorganic chemistry, physics with calculus, statics, dynamics, introduction to electrical engineering, and bunches of other unrelated stuff.  The idea being that you can then talk to anyone about any aspect of a system.  I don't think I've hardly used any of the class work except for teaching my grandson about science in the kitchen.

She is young, yes?  At this time, she will believe you.  And you will have to explain the meaning of lots of ideas in this world very often while she is young. 

This is how growing up works.  When your child is very young, you teach her to say please and thank you, to pick up her toys and question the world around her.  When she is a teenager, she will rebel.  She will not be polite and her room will look like a pig sty.  Patience.  Your real daughter will return to you.  When you come home one day, her room will be cleaned up, the front room dusted and vacuumed and dinner started in the kitchen.  She will suddenly become the cheerful rational person you remembered as a child.

My strongest recommendation for you is to not give her religion as a reason to rebel.  Teens have a tendency to pick what they see their parents get most upset about for the focus of their rebellion.  If you make religion your obvious hot button, she will push it when she goes through that stage of her life.  Try to be more tolerant now, so she will pick something less stressful for you to rebel over.

LOL My oldest son rebelled by being Mr. Preppy - he ironed his clothes, wore button down shirts, and kept his hair short but not buzzed.  I kept trying to get him to wear a multi-colored mohawk.  Worked like a charm.

He started wearing t-shirts and jeans!  He joined the Air Force so his hair hasn't changed.